“What if?” What if your life was not what it is now? Have you ever asked yourself this quintessential question at least once in your lifetime? What if you were born a man instead of a woman? What if you were the youngest instead of being the eldest? What if you had a flourishing career with a million dollar salary? What if you earned your living travelling the world? What if you were born in Norway?
Have you ever had a passing thought like this? May be while watching the sunset, while cooking, while sitting at your desk in an office, while having a stroll, while bathing, while doing nothing or while screaming. These are still the superficial questions. Have you ever dug beyond these surface-scratching questions and thought, “what if my life turned out to be very different from what it is now?” What if you achieved all that you aspired to? What if you were exactly what you had always wanted to be? For instance, you are an introvert and always secretly wished to be an extrovert, with lots of friends to begin with. What if you were an extrovert? How life would be different for you? How would you feel being on the other end of the spectrum? How would that translate into happiness? Imagine for a second you are this super-confident being who doesn’t fear people. Imagine being released from that wall you often found yourself in as an introvert and living a life conquering your fear of social gatherings, speaking in public, far from the fear of failure. Imagine releasing all your pent up energy by finally being the person you always wanted to be. What if life was like this? What if? What if your life was not what it is now?
Or, let’s turn it the other way round.
You are exactly what you wanted to be. An extrovert having the world at your feet. A glamorous social life, the life of a party, the connoisseur of all eyes, a confident you whose words are worshiped everywhere you go. Now, what if, what if you were an introvert? What if your words stuck in your throat, your voice trembles when you speak to strangers, you grab every opportunity to sneak out of gatherings. What if, if this were you? How life would be different for you? How would you feel being on the other end of the spectrum? How would that translate into happiness? Or sadness?
What if? What if your life was not what it is now?
And this is just one aspect. What if instead of being a regular guy, you were this famous musician whom the world adored and girls crushed on? What if a housewife was a successful pilot? What if a pilot was a home-maker? What if you were single and a writer living on hills? These may not be life-threatening questions but are sometimes enough to question your life and ask what if. Even if only while driving back home from office in a car. Its amusing to think and dream about a totally different, unrelatable life. Just like that!
PS: And while writing this, a thought just flashed across my mind. Are there extroverts wanting to be introverts? I mean I don’t know? I have seen introverts struggling with being likable and forming connections? I have seen introverts wishing to be extroverts for how much easy there life would become. But I am not sure if there are extroverts craving to be introverts. Have you met any?